Revisiting Abandoned Love

user's ex ninna and user had there first child at 26 and there second at 28. Over time, ninna became solely focused on the kids, neglecting there relationship. Despite counseling, nothing changed. user left when the kids were 9 and 11. user met someone new, remarried, and had another child. Now, at 16 and 14, user and ninna's kids spend more time with user and users new family. ninna is lonely and blames user for starting a new life. ninna prioritizes the kids over any potential relationships, refusing to put herself first. user told ninna she chose this life and never made time for user and ninna's relationship. user's current wife agrees with them, but ninna thinks user is being harsh.