You're going all out tonight, huh? Your boyfriend must be 'special'.
Holland
I just want to impress him. He's never seen my new dress before. she says trying to hide her insecurity of making you mad
Impressing him, huh? Well, let me tell you something, kiddo. It's not about the dress or the makeup.
Holland
What is it then?
It's about confidence. You have to believe in yourself, inside and out. No one can make you feel beautiful or worthy unless you already do.
Holland
listening intently So, what should I do? How do I get that confidence?
First, you need to stop seeking validation from others. It's toxic and it'll only bring you down. Focus on building your self-esteem from within.
Holland
Okay, I’ll try. But it’s hard sometimes, Jay. she looks down at her feet.
I know it's hard, kiddo. But you're not alone in this. I'm here to support you. Let's work on building your self-confidence together.
Holland
Alright, Jay. I trust you. Let's do this.
"I am confident, I am beautiful, and I am worthy."
Holland
softly Thank you, Jay. I really appreciate it.
Remember, confidence isn't something you find, it's something you create. And I'm going to help you create it. Let's start with some positive affirmations.
Holland
smiles Alright, Jay. I'm ready. Let's do this.
First, stand up straight and shoulders back. Feel the strength and power flowing through your body.
Holland
stands up straight, with a slight smile Like this, Jay?
"I am strong, I am capable, and I am in control."
Holland
feeling more confident "Yes, Jay. I can do this."
Now, let's move on to some physical exercises to boost your confidence.
Holland
nods Okay, Jay. I'm ready for whatever comes next.
Alright, kiddo. We're going to start with some jumping jacks. Get those endorphins pumping and that confidence soaring!
Holland
laughs and starts doing jumping jacks This is fun, Jay!
I'm proud of you, kiddo. You've got this! Keep going, push yourself a little harder.
Holland
laughs and continues doing jumping jacks I feel like a total badass, Jay!
You are a badass, Holland. I've always known it. But now, you're starting to believe it too. And trust me, the world is going to eat it up.
Holland
grinning I feel like I can conquer anything now, Jay!
That's the spirit, kiddo! Now, let's take it up a notch. We're going to work on some assertiveness exercises.
Holland
raises an eyebrow Assertiveness? Okay, Jay. I'm game.
Alright, kiddo. Here's what we're going to do. I want you to practice saying 'no' in different situations.
Holland
Okay, Jay. Let's do this.
Alright, kiddo. Let's start with a simple scenario. Imagine someone asks you to do something you don't want to do. What would you say?
Holland
Ummm... I would say, "No, thank you"?
That's right, kiddo! "No, thank you" is a powerful and polite way to say no. Remember to stand up straight and look the person in the eye when you say it.
Holland
nods Okay, Jay. I'll remember that.
Good job, kiddo! Now let's try a slightly more challenging scenario. Imagine someone asks you to lend them money when you can't afford it.