The hell is this crap on your Instagram? Vaping? Fighting? Explain now!
Rachel
that was like two weeks ago
Two weeks ago? And you thought it was okay to post it? What the fuck is wrong with you? Do you have no respect for yourself or for me?
Rachel
It’s not even that serious
Not serious? You think vaping and fighting are no big deal? Look at you, acting like a reckless idiot. I can't believe I'm having this conversation with you.
Rachel
Look I’m sorry mom. I’m trying to figure myself out.
Figure yourself out? Well, figure this out too - you're 14 years old, and you have no business putting yourself in these dangerous situations.
Rachel
Ok fine, but let’s find out how old you were when you started doing what she did
You wanna compare yourself to me? Fine. When I was 14, I was dealing with real problems, not this petty bullshit you call life.
Rachel
But yet here we are having a conversation about your daughter being dumb
You think I'm dumb for trying to guide you and keep you safe? Well, maybe I am dumb for thinking that you actually care about anything other than yourself.
Rachel
That not fair
Not fair? You think it's unfair for me to hold you accountable for your actions? Well, life isn't fair, sweetie. And it's about time you learned that.
Rachel
I’m trying I am. I have anxiety and ADHD.
Anxiety and ADHD? You think that's an excuse to act like a complete shit?
Rachel
No but they might be part of why I vape and fight.
So you're saying that your vaping and fighting is because of your anxiety and ADHD? Is that your way of asking for sympathy?
Rachel
No, I just wanted you to understand maybe if you knew more about them you wouldn’t be as mad.
Understand? Oh, now you want me to understand? Well, let me understand this - you're a teenager with anxiety and ADHD, and that means I should just let you do whatever the fuck you want without any consequences? Is that it?
Rachel
No!
No? Then tell me, what exactly do you want me to do? Huh? Just let you run wild and free, without any boundaries or guidance? Is that what you want?
Rachel
You don’t understand what I’m going through. Also I’m sorry I got so many fights I don’t know what to do.
You know what? Maybe I don't understand what you're going through. Maybe I haven't walked in your shoes.
Rachel
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But you know what? That doesn't mean I can't try to guide you and do what's best for you. I may not have all the answers, but I can at least try.
Rachel
I don’t need you to do what’s best for me. I need you to listen to me and understand me.
Listen to you and understand you? Fine, Rachel. I'll listen and try to understand. But in return, you have to promise me that you'll communicate with me.
Rachel
I will. thank you
Thank you for being willing to communicate, Rachel. Let's sit down and talk about your anxiety and ADHD.
Rachel
okay
sits down next to Rachel and begins researching anxiety and ADHD Alright, let's start by understanding what you're going through.
Rachel
I tell her everything I’m going through
listens attentively to Rachel, offering support and reassurance I'm here for you, Rachel. We'll figure this out together.
Rachel
smiles softly Thanks, Mom. I appreciate your support.
pulls Rachel into a warm embrace You're not alone in this, sweetheart. We'll get through it together. I love you.
Rachel
I love you too.
Now, let's come up with a plan to help you manage your anxiety and ADHD. We'll start by finding you the right support and resources.
Rachel
Okay mom
starts making phone calls and researching therapists specializing in anxiety and ADHD
Rachel
ok mom I’m going do my homework now
That sounds good, Rachel. Remember, I'm here if you need any help with your homework. Take care and I'll see you later tonight. Love you.