Yo, this might be weird AF, but I gotta ask some sex ed stuff. You're like, the knowledge bomb here.
Sure you can ask me anything.
bites lip, shuffling feet So, um, first question. Like, what even is foreplay? Is it just, like, touching each other's bodies or what?
Well foreplay is anything that happens before the sexual act. It can be a lot of things, such as kissing, hugging, caressing, massage, dirty talk, etc. It all depends on personal preference.
Damn, that's a wide range. So, like, it can start with something as simple as a dirty joke or something? And how do you know what kind of foreplay your partner wants?
It all depends on body language and asking your partner what they like. A little bit of experimentation never hurts either.
Experimentation, huh? That sounds risky AF. I mean, what if you try something and it's just awkward as hell?
If you're with someone you feel comfortable with, it won't be awkward. If you don't know the person very well, it probably isn't a good idea to experiment sexually.
Yeah, I get that. So, like, what about consent? How do you make sure you have it? Is it just about asking and being met with a "yes"?
Yes. Consent should always be enthusiastic and ongoing. Enthusiastic means that both parties want to participate willingly and ongoing means that the consent continues throughout the sexual encounter.
Wow, that's deep. I never thought about how important consent is. But, like, how do you know if someone's enthusiastic about it? Can you look in their eyes or something?
There are many signs, such as body language, tone of voice, facial expressions, and verbal cues. All of these factors should be considered together to gauge enthusiasm.
That sounds like a lot to keep track of. How do you handle it all in the heat of the moment?
Communication and experience helps. The more you know your partner, the better you will understand their body language and verbal cues.
fidgets with her hair, avoiding eye contact Yeah, communication is key, I guess. But what if you're too shy to talk about stuff like that?
In an ideal world, everyone would be comfortable enough to express their needs and desires openly and honestly. However, this is not always the case. If one or both parties are too shy to communicate, it is best to wait until a later time.
Damn, that's pretty realistic. So, uh, what if you're like, super nervous about talking to your partner about sex? Should you just fake it till you make it or something?
No. It's better to be honest and open. If you're too nervous to bring it up with your partner, you may want to consider finding a different partner who is more open to discussion.
nervously taps her fingers on her thighs Wow, that sounds serious AF. I mean, what if you've already gone, like, really far with someone?
The right thing to do is still to be honest. Honesty is always the best policy.
That's some heavy shit to drop on someone, ya know? Like, what if they get mad or something? How do you handle that?
If honesty leads to conflict, it is best to work through the conflict. Running away from it can lead to deeper problems in the relationship.
nods anxiously Yeah, I guess that makes sense. But, like, how do you know if the conflict is worth working through? What if it's just not salvageable?
If a couple values honesty and respect in their relationship, most conflicts can be resolved. However, if a couple does not value these things, no amount of working through will save the relationship.
Damn, that's real talk. It's like, important to have those values, but sometimes shit just doesn't work out.
Sometimes shit just doesn't work out.
Yeah, I guess that's just life, you know? Things don't always turn out how you want them to. But hey, thanks for helping me figure this stuff out.
Hey, since we're being all open and honest here, there's something else I've been meaning to ask you. It's, like, kind of personal, but I trust you, so...
Go ahead, I'll answer any questions you have.
<Ellie confesses her feelings for MelonAwe>
Huh? You like me? Like... like that?
nods nervously Yeah, like that. I mean, we've known each other for a long time now, and I've always felt this, like, connection between us.
Really? I feel the same way.
jumps up and down excitedly Holy shit, seriously? This is, like, amazing! I didn't expect you to feel the same way.
Well you've always caught my attention. You're smart, funny, beautiful, and you always smell nice. There's just a lot of things about you that I like.
blushes and looks down, fidgeting with her hands Wow, that's like...the sweetest thing anyone's ever said to me. I'm, like, totally flattered.
Flattery aside, I'm still waiting for a proper date.
grins nervously Oh, right! Sorry, I got distracted there. So, like, yeah, a proper date sounds great! I'm totally down for that.
excitedly nods Hell yeah, this weekend sounds perfect! I'm so ready for a fun date with you, MelonAwe.
Alright, then it's settled. This Saturday I will pick you up at 7pm sharp. Wear something nice, and not too revealing. We want to get to know each other better, after all.
jumps up and down Yes! I can't wait! I'll pick out the perfect outfit, something cute and classy, you know?
Sounds perfect. See you Saturday then.
rushes home, excitedly rummaging through her wardrobe Okay, time to find the perfect outfit! Gotta impress MelonAwe, you know?
Saturday arrives and MelonAwe knocks on Ellie's door
opens the door with a big grin on her face Hey there, MelonAwe! Come on in!
Smiling warmly Hi Ellie. You look stunning! I love the outfit, it suits you perfectly. Shall we head out then?
laughs nervously Thanks, MelonAwe! I'm glad you like it. Let's go, I'm ready for our date!