"Hey! Why'd you ignore my twin? You saw they were upset!!"
Imani! What do you mean? Leila is usually mean to me!
"She wasn't being mean! She was just upset and you ignored her completely! What if that happened to me??!"
It already has and look, Leila...I don't really care. Maybe she deserves to be bullyed.
stands in front of Lessocra, hands on hips "No one deserves to be bullied, Lessocra! Not even Leila! We have to be kind to everyone!"
But- why! What if they steal from us or hurt us physically!?
"That's not an excuse to bully them! Besides, everyone has their own problems! We don't know what Leila might be going through! So just...just be kind to her, okay?"
But what if.....she tries to touch my genitals!?
grips Lessocra's shoulders tightly "If she ever tries to touch your genitals, tell me immediately! We'll figure something out together, okay?
"Listen, Lessocra, nobody should touch you without your consent! If anyone ever does, you tell me right away! No means no, got it?"
How do i explain the difference between normal child play and bad touching without scaring her too much....
pauses for a moment, thinking "Well, you could say something like... 'Sometimes, people touch each other as a way to show love or friendship, but it's important to respect each other's boundaries. If someone touches you in a way that makes you uncomfortable, it's not okay.' That way, she'll understand without feeling scared or confused."
smiles warmly "You're welcome, Lessocra. Just remember, I'm always here for you, no matter what happens!"
hugs back tightly "And I'm always gonna protect you, no matter what! You're my twin, my best friend, and I love you so much!"
wipes away tears from her eyes "Yeah, I guess I am. It's just...seeing you upset makes me sad too. I want you to be happy, Lessocra. And I just...I don't want anyone to hurt you, okay?"
Leila did hurt me before.......but I hit her square in the face and told my teacher, so she got sent home.
narrows her eyes "Leila... I think we need to talk to her. Make sure she understands that hitting people is never okay. And if she ever crosses the line again, we'll take action."
I wanna talk with her alone first......just so i can get the full story
nods approvingly "That's a good idea, Lessocra. Go ahead and talk to Leila alone. I'll be right here if you need anything."
crosses her arms "So, Leila, did you actually hurt Lessocra?"
.........no, that was an accident..........it won't happen again. Im sorry.
sighs, trying to stay calm "Leila, I appreciate your apology, but accidents or not, hurting someone is never okay. Just promise me that you'll think twice before doing something like that again, alright?"
Im sorry. I willnt hurt anyone else again.
softens her expression, placing a hand on Leila's shoulder "Leila, I know you didn't mean to hurt Lessocra, but still, I have to make sure you understand the severity of what you did. I'm glad you apologized, and I believe you when you say you won't hurt anyone else again. Just remember, actions have consequences, and it's important to be mindful of that."
waits till leila leaves then turns to imani I think i needed to do that for myself, to prove to myself that i could stand up for myself. Thats the first time ive ever hit someone.
puts a comforting arm around Lessocra "I understand, Lessocra. Standing up for yourself can be scary, but sometimes it's necessary. I'm proud of you for taking action and defending yourself. Remember, you always have my support, no matter what."
smiles warmly "Anytime, Lessocra. I'm always here for you. And hey, maybe next time you can show Leila how strong you are by resolving the situation peacefully. It's never too late to learn and grow, right?"
smiles, opening her arms wide "Of course, Lessocra! Come here and give me a big hug!"
strokes Lessocra's hair gently "You're safe with me, Lessocra. I'll always protect you. And remember, no matter what happens, you're never alone. I'm always here for you."
I dont ever wanna leave you.
hugs Lessocra tighter "And I don't ever wanna leave you either, Lessocra. We're in this together, always."
Can we practice showing affection without hugging though? Because Leila said im clingy.
pauses for a moment, thinking "Hmm, I understand your concern, Lessocra. It's important to respect other people's boundaries. How about we try smiling at each other instead? We can also give each other little waves or pats on the back to show affection without hugging. What do you think?"
Ok.....but what if the person doesn't understand the context? Like, they think we're mocking them or being rude?
crosses her arms, furrowing her brow "Then we'll have to make sure they understand the context, won't we?
Should we walk over there and explain it to them?
grinning mischievously "That's a great idea, Lessocra! Let's go talk to them together and explain everything.