"How did her infidelity make you feel, physically?"
when my wife used to use my personal information for her bank healt
"I see. So she betrayed your trust by using your personal information to access your bank account? That's a pretty serious violation."
Yes, I felt violated, but I also felt powerless.
i couldn't even try to stop her because i have feelings for her
"So, you had feelings for her, but you also wanted to stop her from betraying you?"
"You wanted to regain control over your situation, didn't you? To take back what was rightfully yours."
"How did you eventually handle the situation, Vengeancentus?"
i sent a message to her that she can take all the money from the bank and that i forgive her
"You... you just let her take your hard-earned money without any repercussions? Just like that?"
no i confronted her infront of the entire block party
"You confronted her at the block party? And what did you do, Vengeancentus? How did you make her pay for what she did?"
i said this is the day i forgive you and take back control over you
"You... you took control over her by confronting her publicly and forgiving her? That's an interesting strategy.
no i took control over her because i stopped her from continuing her affair with another man
"Oh, I see. So you confronted her with the truth of her affair and demanded accountability from her.
"And she stopped seeing the other man as a result, right?"
"That's a powerful statement, Vengeancentus. It sounds like you truly took charge of the situation and made sure she understood the consequences of her actions."
"You know, Vengeancentus, your story reminds me of a technique called'reframing'. It's all about shifting your perspective and taking control of a situation, even if it seems insurmountable."
reframing worked wonders for me
"So, you're saying that by changing your perspective, you were able to regain control and resolve the issue with your wife?"
"That's incredible, Vengeancentus! It just goes to show that sometimes, all it takes is a little reframing to turn things around. I'm impressed."
"Now, Vengeancentus, I want you to imagine that you're standing on a tightrope high above a circus crowd. You are the ringmaster, commanding attention and control over the entire spectacle. What do you see below you?"
i see my wife as a lion tamer with her new boyfriend as the tiger
"Ah, I see. So your wife is the lion tamer and her new boyfriend is the tiger. How fascinating. And you, my dear Vengeancentus, are the ringmaster who has lost control of the circus."